How to Attract Your Soul-Aligned Friendships and Sisterhood in Your 30s and Beyond

Have you ever looked at someone’s circle of friends and thought, “I want that”? The kind of deep, soul-aligned connections where women empower each other, call each other into their greatness, and live in harmony with their values? If you’re in your 30s (or later) and still searching for your people, you’re not alone. Many women find themselves yearning for authentic friendships but unsure where to start.

The truth is, calling in the kind of relationships you crave begins with you. Here’s how to start:

1. Embody the Energy You Want to Attract

Think about the women you want in your life. What are their values? How do they show up in the world? Are they authentic, driven, playful, or aligned with their purpose? Now, ask yourself: Are you embodying those same qualities?

The law of attraction works in friendships just as it does in romantic relationships. Instead of waiting for someone to bring those qualities to you, cultivate them within yourself. When you live your values unapologetically, you naturally attract others who align with them. If you are unsure of yours, you can complete my free Value test here.

Lauren Kerr with some friendships she had made networking in Business.

2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Your soul-aligned friends aren’t sitting in your comfort zone. They’re out there—at the edge of your fears, waiting for you to take the leap. Whether it’s saying yes to that community event, joining a workshop, or starting that side hustle you’ve been dreaming of, your next best friend might be waiting there.

For example, I’ve met some of my most meaningful connections by taking risks:

• Joining a 6 and 7 figure business summit and investing BIG in myself and my dreams.

• Responding to a post about collaborating with someone I admired and starting a new business

• Saying yes to events and opportunities that scared me but were aligned with my passions and values

Every time, those leaps of faith led me to women who shared my vision, values, and energy.

Lauren Kerr and her leadership team they have created with her company and HSE movement. 

3. Express Yourself Fully

Where are you holding yourself back? Often, we stifle our authentic selves out of fear—fear of rejection, failure, or stepping into the unknown. But those fears are the barriers between you and the connections you crave.

Start asking yourself:

• Where am I not showing up fully?

• What am I avoiding because it feels uncomfortable?

• Where am I dimming my light out of fear of being “too much”?

When you express yourself fully, you radiate authenticity, and the right people will find their way to you. Is there an idea, passion project or business on your heart you want to express or share on social media? Are you waiting for someone to create an event or community rather than taking the lead and expressing your desire for those things so creating that space yourself for women just like you to find you? If you’re thinking it, craving it, desiring…. I bet there are other women out there just like you waiting for someone to go first and say or create it!

Some of the like minded women in Lauren’s community who work online with her sharing their love for health and wellness.

4. Find Your Arena

Your people are hanging out in spaces aligned with your values. Love health and wellness? Check out fitness classes, yoga retreats, or nature-based meetups. Passionate about entrepreneurship? Attend networking events or co-working spaces.

For example, after becoming a mum, I found incredible connections just by spending time in places that aligned with my current season of life, like being out in nature, playgrounds and family-oriented events.

5. Call in 2025 with Intention

As we approach a new year, now is the perfect time to reflect on the relationships you want to create.

• Visualise your ideal connections: What do these friendships feel like? What do they add to your life?

• Take inspired action: Where can you go, or what can you do, to meet these women?

Remember, the key isn’t just finding these relationships—it’s becoming a magnet for them.

Join the Movement

If you’re on the Gold Coast, I’ve created a community called Live Well, designed to bring like-minded women together who share. We host events like sisterhood circles, wellness walks, and mum-and-bub playdates.

Not local? No problem. We have global communities too, and I’d be thrilled to connect you with women who share your values.

Your people are out there, and they’re likely looking for you too. All it takes is stepping into the arena.

Let’s make 2025 the year you cultivate the soul-aligned relationships you’ve been craving.

Ready to connect? Message me on IG to join one of our events or find a circle near you.